google-site-verification: google935433b691795853.html KRISTY BERRIDGE

Sunday, 24 September 2017

Hello Humanity - what happened to our Morality?

The human race – Mankind… and I am referring to you and me.

Oh my - Oh my, we should be so proud of ourselves, look at what wondrous things we have achieved these past years. Our wars don’t just kill thousands, they now kill millions! No validation here, we all take ownership of this bullshit! We either create or have created these campaigns and we nurture and encourage them with banal words of ‘look at me,’ ‘look at me’ with our twitter and Facebook remarks.  We encourage and enlist as much help as possible in defining segregation by encouraging hate toward another’s religion, race while encouraging anger, violence and oppression - let us dominate and browbeat our fellow man…don’t forget bullying and our sexual preferences. Have I left anything out? Probably!
Have we made any advancements? Of course we have, but do they outway the negatives that now menace over us such as our wondrous planet slowly dying due to climate changes, our nations dying because of hatred for one another and the selfish “I want what they have” arrogances. Yes, of course we have made advancements. For example medicine, but do the needful benefit from this, of course not because there is no money in it! Bullshit isn’t it. There are folks who are dying who have no homes; no possessions, no money and we see the faces of starving children all the time, why? Is it to remind those who can afford more, to help, oh please do? As mere minions, why does it always fall upon us, can we not be led by example, please! How about the wealthy bodies of the world getting together, i.e. The Vatican to name but one entity – sell your hidden treasures and you will house and feed millions who desperately need it.
Nope, your right, this ain’t gonna happen! Why? Because there is no humanity there is only greed and the “I wants of this world,” the entitled who think that they are better than the one standing next to them.
Whatever your personal tenets of the concept of morality are, overall, surely they must ultimately address what is right and what is wrong. Do we forsake what is right to appear politically correct? Surely right or wrong is the individual’s natural right to self-preservation, after all who wants to be thought of as wrong!

Stephanie Jackson

Monday, 7 August 2017

How to rid yourself of 
negative energy!
What are you drawn too?
If its negative thoughts, then I am there with you…but only sometimes. However, it is real and it happens to us all at one point in time.  I believe that we all need to change that relentless negative to positive in everything that we do.
Okay we all get this and understand this, but how do we get rid of those niggling negative thoughts? That inner dialogue that speaks to us when we do not want or need it to, that inner dialogue that creates stress and havoc, purely out of misguided thoughts or unresolved questions - - where are the quieting moments?
Mmmm not so easy is it?  We can say positively that we will think positively…but we are only human and so, try as we might, we slip back to listening to the madness chaos that our minds create.
We can do something ‘airy-fairy,’ like imagine something beautiful…yes; this will work for the short term, but not long term. Perhaps the honest and most logical approach is to face what is creating this negative energy, after all as complex human beings we exist, therefore we control, therefore we can create and change, and therefore we can choose what sort of energy we want around us.
What is it that we want?
Presumptuous perhaps, but we want to be happy, we want to be productive, we want to love and live cohesively with those around us. We do not want negativity, we do not want misery, and we want to be content. We are the only ones that can change this.  We have that power, we have the capacity to think, work, create and be whomever it is that we want! We don’t need the negativity, it stunts, and it creates melancholy and discontent…who wants that?
It’s easy, ‘you think what you feel’ or is that ‘you feel what you think!’


Sunday, 18 June 2017

Is it that hard? Really!
Its habit forming. If we do not receive any gratitude for ether a job well done, a little act of kindness for another that does not result in a simple thank you then yes, we become resentful. Therefore, we stop the acts of random kindness to others, this in turn becomes a habit and therefore kindness is relegated to the backbench not to be seen for some time.
Are we so busy with our lives that we forget that a) we were once so young we needed help b) we relied so much on the Internet which now appears to be an extension to our bodily limbs…yes the bloody mobile! In addition, c) we are now too old, cranky and afraid of change that no one bloody cares anyway? What does this mean, an impersonal, antisocial, narcissistic society so involved with themselves that they forget or have forgotten human interaction? I am confused, what happened to being kind with and to one another?
Is it now classified as old fashioned to be kind? Do we now forget the random acts of kindness to another because we are afraid of negative response? Are we that pathetic? Conditioned, programmed and weak willed?
Kindness is like looking into a mirror, if you cannot be kind to yourself, how can you possibly be kind to another?
Empathy…there is no longer empathy. Please do not misunderstand me; I understand that there has to be technology in order to move forward.  However, without empathy, sympathy and grace, how can humanity hope to survive?
I like to think that we all try always to look past the awful things that people can say or do in order to see them as a whole, albeit a complex person. Of course, sometimes, it is so much easier to assume the worst and yet so much harder to see them as whole entity, after all no one person is good or bad, they may be complicated, messy or perhaps even interesting but they are always worthy of being treated with dignity and respect.
Do you not think so?

Stephanie Jackson

Sunday, 28 May 2017

It would appear that cyber bullying has become a major issue, predominantly for teens and upcoming adults. Years before the internet it was schoolyard antics that drove children home in tears, now it’s the pouty-mouthed, snap-chatting, selfie-taking figure-heads of popularity that rule the bullying domain.
Suddenly suicide rates have increased and rates of depression among teens is skyrocketing. But what can we do to prevent this almost ‘normal’ state-of-affairs from reaching our future children?
Now I’m not talking about books and academics or putting the task of educating and also punishing the kids into the already overly-laden hands of our teachers, I’m talking about putting the responsibility of our children’s behaviour into our hands … parents, friends and family … the people who are supposed to care about the nature of our youths the most!
It sounds like a whimsical, tried and tested approach and yet, I still see parents allowing their children to wear inappropriate clothing for their age, roam the streets at darkened hours and speak as if they’ve earnt the right to abuse the English language with their texting shorthand and ways of naivety. The truth is we seemed to have stopped disciplining, supporting and encouraging as well as promoting the self-love and self-respect that kids these days are sorely lacking.
Along with fish lips and cleavage shots, it has become relative to trade sexual favours for popularity, discard self-respect and completely belittle intelligence or originality. We have bred a bunch of drones incapable of positive human emotion and this is somehow acceptable. When did children get pigeon-holed for their looks, their parent’s finances, sporting abilities or creative differences? Never mind race or gender equality. It seems we’ve stopped encouraging free-thinking, emotionally nourished children with self-respect, dignity and moral constitutions. What would have once been highly praised is now bullied via a coward’s platform … the internet.
Unfortunately, I don’t believe that cyber or bullying of any variety will cease in the near future. As long as there are those that find it socially acceptable to berate or belittle another human being for their differences, education and discipline will only reach so far.

Kristy J

Tuesday, 25 April 2017

I’ve been asked to write about: The male guide to female communication.

A tricky topic if ever I’ve encountered one. I think I’d rather blog about vaginal discharge and the do’s and don’ts of battery licking, but alas I’ve been laboured with this incredibly serious task that I honestly have no formal qualifications to quantify.
Most would expect me to write something along the lines of: The female is always right so just say, ‘yes, dear’ and be done with it, but that is almost never the case. So, rather than listing what I think men ‘should’ say or even how they ‘should’ communicate with women, I’ll simply write a list of the things we don’t like so you know what to avoid. Obviously if you decide to tell your wife or significant other that ‘yes, that blue dress does make you look fat’ then you’re going to get a slap. There’s a time and place for honesty too.

1.       When you’re running late, don’t tell her that she looks great because you want her to hurry up—we know you’re lying, give honest feedback instead (except the fat thing, I’m serious about the slapping). Let her know that perhaps her shoes would be better in another colour or a longer dress etc, etc—helpful feedback, not the kind where you’re literally seconds from shoving her face-first into the taxi.
2.       We love it when you listen to what we’re saying and remember it. I’m serious. When I have to repeat myself I almost always go postal. Aint nobody got time for that, especially a busy wife, mother or working woman!
3.       We hate it when you leave your clothes on the damn floor (especially next to the intended destination like the washing basket). Who picked it up for you before your significant other came along? Who washed it, folded it and put it away? That’s right … you did. We’re not your f#@king slaves, so be considerate.
4.       It may not be in your nature, but occasionally we love it when you do something unexpected that might actually help, like unpack the dishwasher and put everything away, hang out a load of wet laundry, vacuum the floor. We certainly don’t expect it, but definitely appreciate the small things, because if you attempt the big things like cook a gourmet meal, you’ll almost certainly f#@k it up and leave a massive mess for her to clean up which puts you back at square one.
5.       Romance pays dividends. Not all the time. Cheesiness will also earn you a dick slap, but a foot rub while watching telly or making her a cup of coffee when you can see her day has been crazy will most probably earn you a BJ.

I could honestly go on. I have so many comparable situations in which male to female communication could be executed more fully, but in truth, there’s no better communication than the open dialogue you both share regularly and filtered with compromise. That’s not to say you couldn’t make more of an effort (you know you’re mostly a lazy bugger), but if you even start with listening … oh what a massive difference that would make. Unless of course you have the Olympic champion of talkers for a significant other, then feel free to tune out and Facebook until midnight. Nobody likes a Chatty Cathy!

Kristy J